Monthly Archives: May 2012

The Roller Coaster of Writing

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If you’re like me, the idea of roller coasters is vomit-inducing, both from the loop de loops and the insurmountable fear of all things that go fast, upside down and high in the sky. If you’re not like me, then all of what I just said doesn’t apply, but you can still stick around for the rest of this. Writing is much like a roller coaster and I know I’m not the first to think of it in this way. I’m just currently experiencing it hardcore, so I wanted to devote a post to it.

When you get that first idea that tingles in the back of your brain, you think, “Gee, this may actually make a good book!” It makes you all goofy inside. You look for the nearest device to record this brilliant thought and you can feel that rush of adrenaline. That’s the writer’s equivalent to standing in line for your favorite coaster. You’re all anxious and excited about what’s going to happen, the feeling of the unknown, even if you’ve ridden this ride before. You can feel your heart fluttering and you’re all smiles and giggles.

Now, you’ve made it onto that roller coaster – you’re heavy into your first draft. There’s still a great amount of anticipation as you climb that steep first hill. There’s also some frustration mingled in there because you’re ready to get to the top of that great hill. You want to see all the sights at the tippy top and you’re ready to take that first plunge. That’s why you’re on this roller coaster, isn’t it – for the thrills and chills? There’s a slow ascent to the top and you’re trying to be patient, sitting back in your seat, dangling your legs (praying to God that your safety harness doesn’t magically unlock itself plunging you to your death – wait this last one just pertains to me, not writing). All the while on this roller coaster of writing you’re pushing upward and onward and you’re making progress toward that first goal – the finished manuscript.

Ta-da! You’ve made it! You’ve got that manuscript finished and polished and now you get to start submitting your query letter to agents. You’re taking that first plunge. You hold your breath as you hit the send button on your emails and you attempt to throw your hands in the air and let it all go as you now feel powerless and small. You have no control over what happens now – you’re the writing roller coaster’s biatch. Hang in there baby, because this is when the ride gets good and crazy.

Suddenly you’re on the ride of your life! You’re getting form rejections, partial requests for your manuscript and maybe *gasp* full requests. You’re up and down and up and down as you eagerly send out portions of your project and then wait to hear back if they “fell in love with the writing” or “just don’t connect to the work at this time”. Everything’s happening so fast you don’t know which way to turn. You can’t, you’re glued to your seat and you’re committed to this nutty ride. If you try to get off a roller coaster mid-ride, it’s not going to be pretty. So, settle in – you’re in the homestretch now.

It’s almost there! The finish line, the end of the ride, the getting of the agent and eventually, and very hopefully, the publishing of your book. You’ve been through all the fast turns and near-misses and all at once you’ve been terrified and elated, scared and exuberant, nervous and…well you get the point. You feel the coaster make its last turn and you swing into the docking bay lurching to a stop. You did it, you conquered the giant! You took the wild ride and survived. Your legs are a little shaky, maybe you’re a little nauseous. But after all of that, your first thought is – when can I go again?

 

Keep Calm and Carry On

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I’m out of deep thoughts. I get inspired by things I see on TV or read, but sometimes when I go to the well to draw up that bucket full of knowledge for my readers, I find the well has run dry. Today is one of those days. Last Sunday, I didn’t even have a post because it was beyond dry, it was barren. No inspiration to be found. Not a drop. But I won’t let that stop me :)

Today, I made a trip to Barnes & Noble with my family and among the many good reads purchased, I also nabbed some home decor. I bought a black plaque with white writing which reads, as the image does above: “Keep Calm and Carry On”. I know this is kinda the saying of the moment because I’ve been inundated by it everywhere I go. I finally yielded to its profound meaning and brought it home with me. 

I don’t buy things just because they’re trendy or have a happy slogan. I’m normally pretty anal about anything I buy, so I have to say this really spoke to me today. I’ve embarked on a new journey for myself in the form of writing in the past few years and now I’m at that point where I’m submitting queries to agents and entering contests. All this leads to nervously waiting by the computer or my phone waiting for that all-important email that will “change my life”. 

So, as I browsed the aisles today (possibly imagining where my book may be someday), I came across this slogan yet again and I felt deep down in my soul that it was calling out to me, to help me, to guide me. I now have it hanging over my mantle so I can look at it any time of day when I need that reassurance that whatever is happening and I mean, whatever is happening, it will all be okay if I can just keep my cool and move forward. No point rehashing the past, can’t plot too far into the future. Just keep your head up and plod ahead and life will go on. That’s it folks, maybe not that deep but still a pretty good thought. Hope it helps you in some way. Happy upcoming week!

While I Wait, Feel Free to Laugh

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Yet again another weekend is upon us and I find myself in that perpetual state of waiting. Waiting to hear from agents, waiting to hear feedback, just waiting. Every Saturday I try to find something that people can watch or look at or read that will help them unwind and relax through that beautiful act of laughter. I decided today to go with some funny pictures I found randomly on the internet. Hope these brighten your day, make you laugh out loud, give you a snort, a chuckle, a mild guffaw – anything that helps your weekend. If you like these, feel free to share with your friends. If you have some you’d like to add, feel free to post them in the comments section below. Happy Silly Saturday everyone!

 

 

The Chameleon from AwkwardFamilyPhotos.com (Highly recommend this site)

 

They’ll watch you while you sleep…

If I Knew Then…

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I’m about 2-1/2 years into the wonderful world of writing and I’m really just beginning my adventure down this rabbit hole. First, there was writing the novel, of course. But since that time, I’ve been introduced to the fearsome and sometimes frightening world of queries, synopsis writing, elevator pitches and most recently, Twitter pitches. Would you like to sum up your nearly 60,000-word novel of blood, sweat and tears into 140 characters? Sure thing! (Insert an extremely large dose of sarcasm here.)

I’ve also established a blog to share my every free-floating thought and to give updates on my writing journey to all my friends and family. Every day, I learn something new about the publishing business and sometimes, when I find out that new piece of info, I wish I hadn’t. Because as soon as I hear it, my mind inevitably rushes back to an earlier date when I actually committed whatever horrible offense I was just educated on. It’s at those moments I wish I had a time machine to go back and tell myself that valuable piece of advice before I stupidly walk smack dab into a big ole mistake.

For example, don’t send off a flurry of queries, even when you think you’ve read plenty about how to craft them, before getting them critiqued by a group of current writers. Fresh eyes are a writer’s best friend! This is something I wish I had told myself several months ago, but hey, you live and learn, right?

So, today my hope is that I will be able to help other up-and-coming writers who have yet to travel as far down the writer’s path as I have. Mind you, I’ve not gone very far myself, but even if you’re just starting, I think these will be of benefit to you. Please heed these warnings. They may just help you get that book you’ve slaved over for x-amount of time published.

HELPFUL HINT #1:  As mentioned above, just because being a writer can be a bit of a lone wolf occupation, don’t keep yourself isolated. Reach out to others in the community. A group of writers can help give you perspective on your query, your manuscript, your synopsis, your character’s names and the list goes on and on. Awesome sites to help give you a sense of community and offers great help every step along the way are querytracker.net, agentqueryconnect.com, and absolutewrite.com. These are just a few of the great websites out there that can help you even when you may think you don’t need any (note to self).

HELPFUL HINT #2:  Be receptive to feedback and critiques. Develop a thick skin early on because you’ll need it later for those inevitable agent rejections. Realize that obviously you have to have written a great book and it’s fresh and new and exciting and all that jazz, but this business is also very SUBJECTIVE. Do not get discouraged when you get that first stinging edit of a query or form rejection letter. I’ve now come to believe that there is a little bit of magic sprinkled in the mix when it comes to someone falling in love with your work (great writing/strong voice/unique characters aside). I tend to look at it this way. My book has a soulmate out there, in the form of the perfect agent, and all they have to do is meet and fall in love ;)

HELPFUL HINT #3:  Know thyself! Stay true to who you are. Don’t try to go with whatever current trends you think are out there just for the sake of getting an agent’s attention. Another invaluable thing I’ve learned is that what you’re trying to get an agent with now, will not be published for another 2-3 years. Yes, that’s right. You have to be a bit of a psychic in this business as well. This is why I fall back on a tried but true saying and that is, “Write what you know.” Only you can channel the emotion of teenage angst you went through in high school, the heartbreak at college, the racial profiling, etc. If you use that wealth of information and emotional fountain deep within your soul, regardless of your intended audience or genre, your writing will be fresh and unique and it will get published even if it is 2050 before it hits shelves!

 

 

Now that I’ve had my say, I’m calling on all my incredible writer friends to please help me out in helping others out. Post in the comments section below your tips and painfully-learned examples about the writing process. I’d love to hear from those just starting out to the successfully-published! It’ll be good writing karma if you do!

Southern Belles and Butterflies

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My entire family, including my incredibly happy husband :)

Me, silly? You tell me. Today, my family and a couple of friends of ours visited a local butterfly pavilion. I’ve had a very exciting week with many emotional highs and lows and it felt good to get out of the house and enjoy the company of good friends and my lovely family. After having a great lunch, we headed over to view the buggies, tarantulas and butterflies at the Westminster Butterfly Pavilion. Although, we’ve lived in Colorado almost a year now, we are originally from Georgia, both my family and the couple we were with today, and we haven’t really lost our wonderfully thick Southern accents yet. So, I thought posting some pictures of my family and friends enjoying our outing today and finishing it off with a two-minute video of my heavily-accented narration of the butterfly pavilion would be a good way to end my Saturday and most certainly fit in the category of a Silly Saturday. Btw, we have seen butterflies before but you have to understand my phone’s camera doesn’t do justice to just how furry and bird-like some of these butterflies were and so when you hear excessive squealing or yelling coming from me or one of my companions, just know that it was totally justified. Feel free to comment on any of the pics or my goofy accent :) Enjoy!

Beautiful blue-winged butterfly

My two wonderful children

Sharing the butterfly love

Spidery Sis!

And the Sunshine Fell Upon Me…

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So I got a lovely surprise today on my blog from the wonderful Valerie Lawson. She nominated me for the Sunshine Award and for that I send a big THANK YOU!

Here’s how the Sunshine Award works: Include the award logo in the post. Link back and thank those that nominated me. Answer 10 random questions about myself and/or tell seven random facts. Nominate 10 other bloggers and link them to the award in their comments section.

My 10 questions are listed below, hope you find the answers interesting :) The people I pick can feel free to use these same questions or come up with their own or just give seven interesting facts about themselves. Your choice!

1.  What’s one of your favorite books from childhood? Wuthering Heights. I’d have to say it’s my favorite book of all time, hands down.

2.  What are you reading right now? I’m currently reading The Graveyard Book by the incomparable Neil Gaiman.

3.  What’s a go-to meal you make on busy weeknights? Well, I work from home as a medical transcriptionist so many nights I’m lucky enough to have a wonderful husband cook dinner for the family. If my hand is forced though, I would probably just go the easy route with a casserole or beef stew. My children do have a favorite I make which is something my granny handed down to me that is lovingly referred to as “tuna-nooda-casserole”. It’s really simple involving tuna fish, noodles, mayo and boiled eggs. It’s one of those dishes you grow up with, inexplicably fall in love with and then continue as a tradition for your kids. :)

4.  Favorite thing to do in your free time? What is free time? I work full-time, am married, have two kids and working fervently toward getting a book published, but all that aside, in my spare time, I normally read, dance, go on all the adventures the wonderful state of Colorado offers, spend time with great friends and yeah that’s about it.

5.  Favorite season? My favorite season would probably be Spring into Summer but then my favorite holiday is Halloween, so got to have love for Autumn as well. Like I said earlier, I live in Colorado and now I get to experience all four seasons which is really great. I’m originally from south Georgia and that means the only seasons I was used to were Boiling (Summer), Hot (Fall), Warm (Winter) and then Warm and Muggy (Spring) – wait Muggy is in every season.

6.  Favorite magazine? From time to time, I like to turn my brain off and read People. I also like local Denver magazines such as Westword and 5280.

7.  Favorite author? Of course there are too many to number but I’m a sucker for Terry Pratchett, JK Rowling, and Neil Gaiman, just to name a few.

8.  Favorite teacher (and why)? I loved many of my teachers but Mrs. Cribb was my music/chorus teacher for much of elementary into middle school. She taught me how to have fun, let loose and dance and sing. She was hilarious and made learning fun and exciting and sometimes it even felt dangerous with her. She was the best and the coolest!

9.  Favorite food? Oh my God, this is really too difficult. I’m from the South, so mama likes her fried chicken, mashed potatoes, mac & cheese, collard greens, potato salad, BBQ. In summation, quintessentially anything Southern in nature is my favie.

10.  Do you prefer reading short stories or novels? I prefer reading novels but if there’s an awesome short story out there, I’ll read it too. I don’t discriminate against great reading regardless of the length.

Now that we all feel closer to who I really am, here are my picks for the Sunshine Award and I’m so excited to see their answers and how they nominate.

Sunshiney Fo’ Sho’

1.  Erica M Chapman

2.  T. L. Bodine

3.  Ann Marie Walker

4.  Monica B. W.

5.  Penney

6.  R.C. Lewis

7.  Jemi Fraser

8.  Kimberly Loth

9.  Valerie Cole

10. Chris W Smith

Perspective is Everything

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It’s not the world you live in that determines your fate, it’s the outlook you have about that world that allows you to either go for your dreams or resign yourself to feeling “stuck”. I watched the above video and although it discusses perspective from that of an advertising exec, it definitely applies to writing and more broadly to life itself. Rory Sutherland, Vice Chairman of Ogilvy Group, humorously discusses how perspective changes the way we look at things, everything from not looking like a weirdo at a party all by just adding an electronic cigarette turning you from geek to chic to how people would probably pay double at toll booths for an express lane if they thought the extra money was going to charity and not just lining the pockets of bureaucrats.

In reference to writing (which is what my blog is predominantly about), I think perspective is an integral part of the creative process. You want to create a cool, carefree protagonist? Got to use perspective to make him that way. Just imagine trying to convince your audience that your James Dean-esque main character is cool without putting him in a leather jacket and torn jeans. Now for those of you screaming at your computer screens saying, “But what about the nerd protags that can be the hero as well?” Sure, and quite frankly they’re my personal fave in writing and real life, but the point is to create a character most would consider “cool” and that doesn’t normally come with a set of Buddy Holly glasses and acne. You need to set a scene of creepiness and foreboding, got to have the right perspective in order to do that. If I put my 12-year-old female main character in a field of daisies with the sunlight emblazoning the scene, I’m not sure you’re going to get that I want that scene to evoke feelings of dread and terror. Unless of course you have a fear of daisies in a brilliantly-lit field, which is not normal by the way, but no judgment ;)

Anyone who considers themselves a fairly basic writer knows that you have to maintain the correct perspective in order to convey your overall message to your readers but I shared this video because it was a different way to think about perspective and that how we look at something truly does affect our emotions about it.

The Writer’s Voice Update – I got picked! Go #TeamMonica

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So, it’s a Wednesday. The traditional hump day of the week, right. But guess what? I got totally exciting news today on this otherwise mundane work day. I got picked by the incomparable Monica B.W. found blogging away at 
http://monibw.blogspot.com/
 to be on #TeamMonica in the wonderlicious writing contest, The Writer’s Voice. Out of 200 amazing entries, I made it to the select top 40 that have now been split into four teams of 10 people. This makes me so excited and nervous and excited and anxious and excited, well I think you get the idea. So I just wanted to pop in and share this. I should be posting my usually scheduled Wonderful Wednesday blog which just so happens to be on perspective and how your frame of reference can entirely change your outlook on a situation. Needless to say, no matter how I look at this situation, I feel totally blessed and ready for hard work and did I mention excited, yeah totally excited! Below are the wonderful comments that Monica left on my entry letting me know she wanted me to be on her team.

“I SO WANT YOU!!!!!

Okay, you know I generally don’t read MG, but I LOVED this one, and I could totally picture my 10yo reading this book!! He’d devour it, and I know his tastes. You had me at: “They aren’t obsessed with rescuing exotic animals – they’re busy saving monsters.” And from that line on, it just turned better! And btw, I love Tertulius for a monster name–I think it’s cute.
Like the other entries I’ve chosen, I have a few nitpicks, I think, but nothing huge.

So, I think this was AWESOME and I’d LOVE to have THE FAMILY VYGIL on my team!!!”

Mindful Living

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On Sunday, Oprah sat down with Thich Nhat Hanh. He’s been a Buddhist monk for more than 60 years, a vocal opponent of war which got him exiled from his native Vietnam for nearly 40 years. He talked with Oprah about the beauty of the present moment, being grateful for every breath, and the freedom and happiness to be found in a simple cup of tea.

As I watched the episode, I was definitely in awe of his ability to be so “present” in the present. He said he could take up to 45 minutes to enjoy a cup of tea and to me, that’s a real impressive skill. Unfortunately, it’s not one that I possess. I keep up my Sunday’s Deep Thought entries because not only am I trying to share knowledge with my readers but I’m also trying to broaden my own horizons. I’m a massively impatient person (which btw is working out great while I sit on my hands waiting to hear from literary agents). I think it must be one of those great cosmic jokes that I desperately want to be a published author and it’s one of the most stop-and-go industries out there. So, while I’m on this journey to live out my dream, I’m trying to take stock of my spiritual growth because I need every ounce of help to get through this process.

So in mindful living, Hanh explains that you can meditate while walking, eating, practically every activity. It’s just all a matter of taking the time to experience each moment fully. When you take in a breath, be grateful for that beautiful oxygen filling your lungs. He said that taking a breath all by itself enters you into the kingdom of heaven. What a wonderful sentiment that is and it’s one in which I agree. We are living in the same space as that of divine, we just have to take the time to realize it. Again, I’m preaching at or informing myself as much as you guys. This is something I’m nowhere near perfecting or even trying on a regular basis but I’ve blogged about it today because I really think it’s something worth attempting. I wish you all a wonderful week of mindful living, even if all you do is say thank you once this week for your breath because that simple act is truly a miracle.

Total Blackout

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If you have yet to watch an episode of Total Blackout on SyFy, you’re missing out. This show comes on Wednesday nights and if you’re feeling stressed or just like watching people act like complete fools in the dark, then you should check this out. I’m posting this today because I’m awaiting news of a contest I entered and so, I need the distraction. This small clip is just the tip of the iceberg with how funny this show can be with other examples including a French woman who mistakes a hairbrush for a porcupine (even when she’s able to pick it up with her fingertips), a woman who falls from a beam she thinks is hundreds of feet in the air but is only a few inches from the ground and on and on the list goes. I don’t owe SyFy any debt nor am I trying to receive free stuff from them, this show just owns me! Wanted to share a little levity with my readers on this Silly Saturday!